I wanted to elaborate further regarding the recent Coffee Break Discussion post. I was asked by a subscriber, “How did I learn about the marriage?” I learned about the marriage during a conversation where I was offering encouragement on an unrelated matter. During this discussion, an opportunity presented itself and I felt it was a prefect time to determine if my instincts were right. I said, “I don’t know what your situation is if your married or have children but I think the steps you’re taking could benefit you and your family.
The reply I received, “I have both.” I kept speaking as if I wasn’t surprised by the response. Inside I honestly felt manipulated and insulted. I hid how upsetting it was to learn about the marriage and child. Frankly, I suspected their was a child and I was fine with that, but stepping into a marriage that was a line I would never cross.
I reviewed the last few months in my head, all the conversations and seemingly flirtatious behaviors. I questioned why the marriage and child never came up? I was angry and I avoided eye contact as a way of preventing further conversations. I thought to myself, “Wow, had I never asked, I probably would have never been told.”
But at some point like most things in life you have to learn to move on. I didn’t want to feel manipulated any longer so I chose to resolve the feelings on my own. I was thankful I followed my instincts and didn’t allow myself to simply dismiss the feelings that something wasn’t right. The conversations afterwards between us were somewhat awkward and I never talked about the awkwardness or the manipulation I felt.